From Write Away, Mommy: Interview with a Mother

Interview with a Mother: Autumn Lindsey

I thought I was alone.

Of course, I knew there were other moms who wrote just like me out there typing out there hearts while a child sat in her lap. But I didn’t there was another mother trying to help writing moms. Not only that, but we had a proper name.

Writer Moms.

She changed my mind with this. Helped me realize that writer moms are not alone, not even in the area of helping them. She has a Facebook group, like mine and will soon open her own site dedicated to writer moms.

And we collaborated by starting a publication on Medium called Writer Mom. I am glad to have met her, not only because of her dreams but because of who she is, a kind, encouraging, and beautiful writer mom.

As you will see, too.

1. Please, tell us about your family.

I have three kiddos. My older son is eight and everyday I am blown away by his sweet little creative imagination. He builds amazing worlds of his own at his Lego table and constantly talks about all the movies and inventions he wishes to make someday. I can’t wait to see what he grows up to do.

My daughter is about turn seven but I can already see the amazing young woman she is growing up into. Already we sit together over coffee (for her hot cocoa) and talk about life. She’s just taken an interest in script writing and I couldn’t be more proud!

My youngest boy is five and a half. He’s a ham with a soft side for his mama. Even though he is in Kindergarten he still finds time to come snuggle up to me. They say your youngest will always be your baby and I’m finding how true this is. My husband is my greatest support, my biggest cheerleader, and (this might sound sappy) my best friend.

2. You’ve written a book. We’d love to hear about it. Where did the idea come from?

I did write a book! Which still feels so strange to say, especially since writing was never something I had on my radar. It wasn’t until I was in my mid twenties that my husband and I started writing some little screenplays together when the bug to write bit me.

So my book is titled REMAINING AILEEN. In short, it’s about a mom who becomes a vampire. The long version is its about motherhood and all its messy, joyous, terrifying glory. Becoming a mom changed me, as I’m sure it’s changed many of us, and I think we often come to a point where we as moms realize we are no longer the same person we were before. Some moms take that in stride and wear it proud, others deeply struggle through those changes, and I’m sure some most of us have a little bit of both that we deal with. In my own life this struggle didn’t become apparent to me until my youngest turned 2. I suddenly felt lost and unsure where the person I was before ran off to… I wasn’t even sure when she ran off in the first place.

This is where REMAINING AILEEN comes in. Here is my little book pitch:


Aileen knew motherhood would change her. She never expected those changes to come with a taste for blood, dangerous secrets, and a handsome yet unpredictable stranger. 

Aileen is a mom of two, who (like me) had her kids young and (also like me) had trouble ever letting go of the idea that she could still live a life outside of being just a mom. She is at this point of feeling lost, seeing the toll motherhood has taken on her physically and mentally, and she needs a break. Lucky for Aileen, her sweet mother-in-law gifts her a trip to Miami to visit her childhood friend for her 30th birthday. Unlucky for Aileen, her plan crashes soon after take off. She survives, but is the only one. As the story progresses and Aileen begins a decline in both physical and mental health after the crash, the truth of her survival is soon revealed: she didn’t ever survive the crash in the first place. Dun dun dunnnn…
Here is my little book pitch:

Aileen knew motherhood would change her. She never expected those changes to come with a taste for blood, dangerous secrets, and a handsome yet unpredictable stranger.

3. What’s your favorite social media tool and why?

It’s a tie between Twitter and Facebook really. They both play sort of hand in hand with each other. I love the dynamic writing communities Twitter has to offer which often leads to more personal community groups on Facebook.

4. What does being a writer mom mean to you?

To me, being a writer mom is pretty special. Not that any other type of writer isn’t, but as a writer mom I have the opportunity to not only share my passion of story with the world, but also with my children. I want them to know that any dream they have, is possible if they try and I want to teach them that by example. Maybe they won’t reach the outcome they originally thought, but I know they will learn something amazing about themselves in the process of trying.

To me, being a writer mom is pretty special. I have the opportunity to not only share my passion of story with the world, but also with my children.

5. Writers are readers. What’s your favorite genre and book that started your love of it?

Oh wow, I’m not sure I have just one favorite genre, but I love anything that isn’t quite set in our reality. So maybe fantasy/speculative/science/paranormal fiction? Anything with magic, things unexplained, creatures with pretty faces and pointy teeth, *wink wink*.

The books that really started me down this path of reading these genres as well as writing was The Twilight Saga. Why? I don’t know exactly, but there was something in the last book, when Bella becomes a mom AND a vampire that I started thinking, “wow, what an interesting concept.” I have trouble sitting still through true to life fiction no matter how great of a story it is, I can’t help but hope they turn into some magical creature at some point.

My current favorite read right now is A DISCOVER OF WITCHES by Deborah Harkness. It’s fun!

6. You’re querying now. What’s the best tip you’ve learned from this process?

The best advice I can give you from the short six months I’ve been querying is:

-Be super prepared. As in your book is ready to be published, done. You should already have had many, many revisions, beta readers, critique partners, maybe even hire a professional editor before you even think of sending out that first query (not to mention you need a killer query letter). The more ready your book is to sell, the better your chances of catching the eye of an agent.

-Have an immense amount of patience. It might take you a few weeks to get an agent’s attention, it might be months, or possibly even years. There are thousands of agents out there and it might take time to find them, but having said that, even if your book is perfect, and agents like it, there is still a chance the overall publishing market won’t be interested. Just know it’s not always a reflection on you as a writer or person, it’s business. You are offering a product that publishers only want if it will pay off for them in the end. So, as I’m finding right now for myself, the market for vampire novels just isn’t there right now and I’m still thinking through what my next move might be with that.

-You need to have a good grasp on the fact you will face a lot of rejection. And by a lot, I mean A LOT. In the six months I have been querying I have received over 60 rejections, either in the form of an actual (usually form) rejection letter, or by no response at all. Very little feedback will come your way, and with that lots of doubt will find its way in, hold tight and keep going. If you truly believe in your story and want to see your book published (in one form or another) then stay strong, you got this! Fun fact, I have acquired a large collection of plants over the last few months and I realized after a bit that each time I got a rejection email, I was buying plants not too long after. My house is literally turning into a jungle.

-My last piece of advice is don’t do this alone. Find a community of writers you connect with, either online or in person, who are going through the trenches with you. I promise the rejections will sting a little less knowing you aren’t the only one receiving them.

The best advice I can give you from the short six months I’ve been querying is be super prepared, be patient, and don’t do it alone.

7. What do you wish someone would ask but no one ever does?

Hmm, I’ve never really thought about this actually!

I do have this crazy idea for a show where a couple dog-naps rich peoples dogs and waits till they post a reward poster, in which their alter-ego as “so and so’s doggy detective service” goes and “finds their dogs” to collect the rewards with 100% success… anyways no one ever asks me about my odd TV series ideas, haha.

Thank you for letting me interview you, Autumn.